Behind the Scenes at The Self Care Network™ January 2026

What This Work Is Really Asking of Me**

People often assume that because I teach clarity, stability, and leadership behavior, I must constantly feel grounded, steady, and sure.

I don’t.

In fact, stepping into this new year has required a level of honesty with myself that has been uncomfortable, humbling, and—if I’m being completely transparent—transformational.

Here’s what’s really been happening behind the scenes at The Self Care Network™.

Not the brand version.Not the consultant version.The human version.

1. I had to confront my own pressure patterns before I could help anyone else.

A few weeks ago, I woke up at 5am with my mind already racing.Not about clients.Not about deadlines.

About expectations.

Mine.Other people’s.The ones I inherited.The ones I put on myself because “leaders should.”

I sat on the edge of my bed and realized I was already slipping into the same pattern I see in executives every day:

Overfunctioning.

Not because things were falling apart —but because deep down, I still felt responsible for preventing things from falling apart.

Even when no one asked me to carry that.

That moment was uncomfortable.It forced me to ask myself a hard question:

“How can I teach leaders to stabilize themselves under pressureif I won’t acknowledge the pressure I still carry?”

That question became my entire January.

2. I had to tear apart my own calendar and rebuild it from a place of truth, not fear.

If you’ve ever built a business, you know how easy it is to fill your schedule with things that look productive but drain the life out of your purpose.

I had to ask:What work feels aligned with the leader I am becoming, not the one I used to be?

And the answer was clear:

• I don’t want surface-level requests.

• I don’t want performative work.

• I don’t want to be brought in for “optics.”

I want depth.I want precision.I want leaders ready to tell the truth about their behavior and what it’s costing them.

So I cleared space — physically and mentally — to make room for the deeper diagnostic work I’m meant to do.

That took courage.

Because saying no to volume forces you to trust your value.

3. I created new Purple Elephant™ tools out of the parts of myself I used to shrink.

This one is the most personal.

The Purple Elephant framework didn’t come from theory, It came from me —from watching how silence grows,how tension spreads,how people shut down when they feel unseen,and how leaders implode under the weight of what they can’t name.

I used to think I was “too sensitive.”That I noticed too much.Felt too deeply.Saw the cracks before the collapse.

Now?

I realize that sensitivity is data. It’s insight. It’s diagnostic power.

So the tools I built this month aren’t just business tools —they are the maturity of every experience that taught me how instability begins and how clarity heals it.

These tools will change organizations, but they changed me first.

4. And yes — I’m still obsessed with leader stabilization.

Because I had to stabilize myself.**

This isn’t a tagline or a method. It’s a truth I’ve lived.

I’ve had seasons where:

• my ambition outran my capacity

• my empathy outweighed my boundaries

• my strength masked my exhaustion

• my clarity dimmed under other people’s expectations

And what I’ve learned is this:

Nothing in an organization stabilizesuntil the leader stabilizes first.

When leaders breathe, teams exhale.When leaders align, teams trust.When leaders get honest, cultures transform.

This is the work I’m committed to —because it’s the work I had to commit to inside myself.

The Real Behind-the-Scenes Truth?

I am doing the very same work I ask leaders to do:

• slow down

• tell the truth

• name the pattern

• release the old identity

• choose clarity over chaos

• and stabilize from the inside out

This month, SCN is not just evolving as a company.I am evolving as the leader behind it.

And I want you to know that.Not because it’s polished.But because it’s real.

More soon,Jenora